What Do You Do When Facing A Challenge?

Quote: "When facing a challenge, employ language that empowers you rather than leaves you in a quandary; rather than ask, 'What can I do?', ask yourself 'What will I do?'" --- Jeff Davidson

When Someone Really Cares About You

If someone really misses you, they will give you a call.  If someone really wants you, they will make the effort to tell you. If someone really cares about you, they will always try and show you. If they don't bother then they just aren't worth your time.

“I think... if it is true that 
there are as many minds as there 
are heads, then there are as many 
kinds of love as there are hearts.” 
― Leo Tolstoy

“No one knows for certain how much impact they have on the lives of other people. Oftentimes, we have no clue. Yet we push it just the same.” 
― Jay Asher

Break-up Story - Read It.. It Will Take Just 3 - 4 Mins..

Read It.. It Will Take Just 3 - 4 Mins..

Boy: I broke up with her.

His Best Friend: What happened?

Boy: She’s just too much for me.

His Best Friend: What makes you say that? What did she do wrong?

Boy: Well, for one.. She only cared about her appearance. Always had to look good, always took forever to get dressed! So insecure..

His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she wanted to keep your eyes locked on her? She wanted you to see that you have the prettiest girl under your sleeve and not think otherwise? I see..

Boy: Oh.. Well.. She’d often call me or text me asking where I am, who I’m with, telling me not to smoke, not to drink. She’s so clingy!

His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she cares about your well being? Because she cares about you a lot? And her greatest fear is losing you. I see..

Boy: But.. Uhh.. Well, she’d always cry when I say something slightly mean. She can’t handle anything. She’s a crybaby!

His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she has feelings? And because she just wanted to hear you say you love her? I see..

Boy: I.. Well! You know, she’d get jealous easily. I could barely talk to other girls! She’s so annoying! I had to hide it from her so she wouldn’t bitch about it.

His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she just wanted you to commit to her? She thought you were faithful, but you lied so she could find out later and hurt even more? She just wanted the guy she loves the most to love only her. I see..

Boy: Well, she..

His Best Friend: You broke up with her because she’s good for you? She just wanted the best for you? She’s broken now because you were selfish. Are you proud?

Boy: I broke her heart.. Because I couldn’t see what was happening.. What happened to me?

His Best Friend: You lost the girl that loved you like no one else could. You see? You didn’t want her when all she ever wanted was you. THAT’S what happened.

SOMETIMES we don't realize we are losing a diamond while collecting stones..

"Guys don't let her go... she is the only one"...

Think about it, when she’s too much for you.. She just wants the best for you. Because to her YOU’RE the best. If you don’t like something, talk to her about it. You mean so much to her. Don’t just give up. Don’t just leave because you want the easy way out.

Quote:

"When you cannot make up your mind which of two evenly balanced courses of action you should take - choose the bolder."

--- Ezra Pound 

Quote:

"The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly."

--- Buddha

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Quote:

"Wherever you are is always the right place. There is never a need to fix anything, to hitch up the bootstraps of the soul and start at some higher place. Start right where you are."

--- Julia Cameron 

 

How to Train Your Brain to Fall Asleep in 60 Seconds

The most important thing for our optimal health is getting a good night’s sleep.

However, many people deal with insomnia. The major causer of this problem is stress. Continuous stress can cause a plethora of negative ramifications on the body, including muscle fatique, elevated levels of anxiety and impairment.

Luckily for us, there is one technique that has been proved to be effective when it comes to sleeplessness or insomnia.

It’s called the “4-7-8” breathing trick.

How to Perform This Breathing Technique

Start this tecnique by inhaling through your nose for a count of four seconds, hold your breath for seven seconds, and then start exhaling through your mouth for a count of 8 seconds. You can repeat this cycle as many times as you need until you fall asleep.

Maybe you will want to speed your breathing, but the key is to maintain the 4-7-8 brething pattern as long as possible in order for this technique to work. This slows down your heart rate and will have you dozing off in seconds.

Why it Works

According to some studies, stress and anxiety have a great impact on how our bodies function. For example, people who are anxious and stressed, they may be chronically under-breathing, taking qucik, shallow breaths, when they actually need to take slow, deep breaths in order to feel relaxed.

That’s why this 4-7-8 pattern is very good, since when you are inhaling for 4 seconds, you are forcing yourself to take in more oxygen; by holding your breath for 7 seconds, you are allowing the oxygen to spread throughout your bloodstream and finaly, by exhaling for eight seconds, you are expelling carbon dioxide steadily from your lungs.

With this technique, your body is able to relax more fully, because it slows your heart rate while increasing the levels of oxygen in your blood stream.

Making it Work For You

This amazing tecnique is spread from mouth to mouth by anxious bridesmaids in the United States. However, Dr. Andrew Weil, educated in Harward, is one of the foremost proponents of the 4-7-8 breathing tecnique.

Dr. Weil doesn’t promise that this breathing tecnique will work for everyone. However, the next time you are having a sleepless night, you can try this free, all-natural and completely healthy way to put yourself to sleep. Try to avoid  the over-the-counter pills and use some simple breathing exercises and you will see the difference that the 4-7-8 breathing method makes.

What Does Your Birthday Say About Your Love Life

What Does Your Birthday Say About Your Love Life?

If you've always wondered if winter babies were "naughtier" than summer babies or vice versa, look no further. 

Astrologer Suzie KerrWright created this interesting article to find out the real story behind what your birth month has to do with how you like to make love and your love life overall.

Read on for yourself.

January: January-born people are going to be a little more conservative when it comes to actually hooking up with someone. 

But once they like someone, they'll be very persistent in making it happen. Those born in January have one of the kinkiest signs. You wouldn't think so, but they're right up there with November birthdays in terms of being freaky in the bedroom. 

February: February-born people are adventurers. They have a lot of passion, but you have to really work for it. Their heads are focused in causes and the bigger picture, but you really have to try to get them to connect emotionally. It's not that you can't connect emotionally, but you better be prepared to work for it.

March: March-born people love spending time in bed. Love for them is very intense and bonded because they give their partner everything they have and often take love making to new heights of spirituality.

April: April-born people are very independent, so when they get involved with someone, they give their all. Making love with an April-born person is hot, intense, and very passionate because they're ruled by Mars, but once the love making is over, it's really over. Their passion is huge but they often get tired of people really quickly.

May: May-born people make love to be comfortable and sensual and warm. They love the act of love making itself. They want to make love on satin sheets in a gorgeously decorated room or not at all.

June: June-born people will want to try every position under the sun because they want to know everything about everything. They're not as intense as February-born people, but they're still intense. If you want someone to talk dirty to you, they've got you covered. If you try having naughty phone calls or message chats with them, they will love you forever.

July: Making love with July-born people has to have a deep emotional component. They have to feel safe with someone and once they do, they will do anything to please their partner. They love to nurture people and make sure they're satisfied and have everything they need.

August: August-born people can either be extremely selfish or extremely generous. They'll want to make sure their partner has everything, or they'll sleep with someone and leave immediately. They hate being told what to do in the bedroom, and their egos are easily bruised.

September: They're passionate but they're always in control of their emotions, so when it comes to making love, it'll take a lot to really get them to let go. They won't immediately throw themselves into making love with someone, but if they have an emotional component there, there's nothing they won't do.

October: They want to paint a romantic, passionate picture, and tell you how it'll be and how you'll feel. Then once they tell you, they want to go very slow and make the experience last. They'll really take their time and linger and romance someone. October-born people might lack passion, but they make up for that with spot-on courting that leads up to romantic love making.

November: November-born people are the epitome of what passionate love making is. They need to possess their partners and want their partners to possess them and will make that happen. They will try every act imaginable just to say they've done it.

December: December-born people are very creative in bed. They love to create stories and role-play with partners. It's often hard to connect to them in a deeper way, but they'll make love making fun every single time.

When A Woman Loves A Man…

It is easy to understand the emotions of a woman when she is in love. If she loves you then you will always be on her mind every minute of the day and she would love to stay connected to you all the time. If she keeps calling you or texting you it doesn’t mean she has nothing else to do in her life …just remember she is taking out time from her busy schedule just to give her and time and attention to you. If she shows jealousy towards other women in your life it means she just can’t share your attention with anyone else. If she says sorry for no fault of hers it means she just loves you and she doesn’t want to make you feel bad for whatever you did to upset her. If she keeps forgiving you for your mistakes and accepts you back in her life again and again it simply means that she loves you and you are really important to her and she treasure your relationship with her. If she is truly in love with you she can go to any extent to show her love and affection and she wants nothing more than to feel loved.

How To Make A Woman Crazy About You

Are you crazy about a woman in your office? Make a move quickly or she will be gone, to another guy. There are many things guys can try on girls, here are some of the psychological tricks that can help you catch the love of your life:

1. Be mature

Women tend to mature earlier than men and often complain about immaturity in men. Be mature in your behavior and think before you speak. Be conscious of your words and the way you say them. Don’t panic in tough situations, act as a protective shield for the woman. She should know how responsible you are regarding work, finances, family, and future. Women love it when men care about their desires, likes, and dislikes. Talking to a woman about herself is an easy way to make her crazy about you.

2. Be active and energetic

Energy takes many forms, for example flirting, butterflies in the stomach, tension, or nervousness. Here we are referring to the energy that makes you charming to a girl. The more active you are, the more she wants to spend time with you. Be spontaneous, witty, make her laugh, touch her lightly, engage in sexual innuendos, and be little naughty. These things will make her think of you 24*7.

3. Lose the chain

A woman is more likely to be mad about you if she thinks she can lose you. Don’t spend all your time around her. Let her miss you and feel your importance. Cancel dates sometimes and don’t always return phone calls. This will make you confident and increase your importance. Show her you are not addicted to her. However don’t overdo this. If you seem to be playing games, this might work the other way for you. Maintain some ego and attitude.

4. Be a romantic pal

This is the best way to get a woman in. Women can be emotional and this is what makes this trick work better than others. Get her emotions focused on you. Write poetry for her, she is going to love it. Women love it when men appreciate their beauty and jot down their feelings in a pattern. If you are bad at writing poems, choose your favorite by someone else and explain your emotions that way.

5. Be humorous

Women love funny guys, make her laugh when you can. Use your sense of humor all the time, this will make her enjoy your company and crave your presence more. Act freely and unreserved so that she can comfortably approach you. Be lively and don’t hesitate to talk about things with her. Soon she will not be able to spend a day without you and will get used to your humor.

6. Compliment her sincerely

Never hesitate to compliment your girl. Women put a lot of effort into their appearance and love to hear compliments. Make sure you are not doing it too frequently, make it feel real and genuine. Complimenting her daily about how beautiful she looks will make her used to it and she will get bored. Compliment her decency, nature, and innocence. Talk about her cuteness and smile.

7. When to say I Love You

This is an important stage of a relationship, these 3 words are heavy and meaningful, they should not be used in the beginning of a relationship. As your relationship goes on, your emotions develop. It is suggested to shoot these three words when your conversation with her is getting emotional or sensual. Tell her how special she has become to you and how happy you are with her. Remember to say these words in an emotional conversation because if you use these words in the beginning, then she won’t be able to feel your love for her. Have patience and wait for the right time. Until then follow the above tricks and make her crave you.

6 Type Of Woman Men Don't Want To Marry

Women often spend time wondering what type of women men want to marry, but have you ever considered the type of woman men don’t want to marry?

Here’s some of the most common personality types that send many men running for the door!

The Control Freak 
She comes off like a mother figure, she’s emasculating and treats her man like an improvement project.

The Baggage Lady

She’s still carrying baggage from previous relationships, she often starts sentences with, “My last boyfriend/husband.” She’s driven by fear and unresolved anger.

The Asphyxiator

She has no life outside of her man and expects him to feel the same. She’s dropped all of her friends and no longer engages in any hobbies that are not shared.

She often nags when her partner wants to spend time with his friends, in most cases that equals any amount of time that doesn’t include her. She’s extremely clingy and needy.

“Daddy Issues” Lady

She’s looking for a man to solve all of her problems, and she’ll resent him if he can’t wipe away all of her tears and kiss away all of her boo-boos. She’s the one who expects the same standard of material indulgence that daddy used to lavish on her. This variation of “daddy issues” lady is emotionally immature and spoiled.

She could also be the type who had a poor or a non-existent relationship with her father so she’s constantly seeking attention outside the relationship to fill a void.

The Gossip Girl

She’s the woman who mistakes her boyfriend for one of her girlfriends. She doesn’t understand that the type of intimacy she enjoys with her female friends doesn’t translate well with men. She may expect him to be at her beck and call with lots of emotional drama. She’s quick to point out flaws in other women.

Mommy’s Little Darling

She’s incapable of making a decision about anything without bringing her mother’s opinion into the matter! She can often be found on the phone with her mother whining about all the the intimate details of her romantic relationship.

Often, women like this have co-dependent relationships with their mothers, or they were raised by narcissistic mothers who punished their daughter’s attempts at personal individuality.

The Suitcase - Truly Inspirational

A man died, when he realized it, he saw God coming closer with a suitcase in his hand.
- God said: Alright son its time to go.
- surprised the man responded: Now? So soon? I had a lot of plans...
- I'm sorry but its time to go.

- What do you have in that suitcase? the man asked.
- God answered: Your belongings.
- My belongings? you mean my things, my clothes, my money?
-God answered: Those things were not yours they belonged to the earth.

- Is it my memories? the man asked.
-God answered: those never belonged to you they belonged to Time

- Is it my talents?
-God answered: those were never yours they belonged to the circumstances.

- Is it my friends and family?

-God answered: I'm sorry they were never yours they belonged to the path.

- Is it my wife and son?
- God answered: They were never yours the belonged to your heart.

- Is it my body?
- God answered: that was never yours it belonged to the dust.

-Is it my soul?
God answered: No that is mine.

Full of fear, the man took the suitcase from god and opened it just to find out the suitcase was empty.
- With a tear coming down his cheek the man said: I never had anything???
-God answered: that is correct, every moment you lived were only for yours. You never lived for somebody who is not related to u in any way.

Moral:

Do something for other people who cant return the favour back to you. Life is just a moment. A moment that belongs to you.

-Live Now
-Live your life
- Don't forget to be happy and make others happy, as that is the only thing that matters.
- Material things and everything else that you fought for stay here.
-YOU CAN'T TAKE ANYTHING

Share this reflection with anyone you love or appreciate. Enjoy and let others Enjoy!

Brad Pitt, A Secret of Love.

Brad Pitt About His Wife :

“My wife got sick. She was constantly nervous because of problems at work, personal life, her failures and problems with children.

She has lost 30 pounds and weighted about 90 pounds in her 35 years. She got very skinny, and was constantly crying. She was not a happy woman.

She had suffered from continuing headaches, heart pain and jammed nerves in her back and ribs. She did not sleep well, falling asleep only in the morning and got tired very quickly during the day.

Our relationship was on the verge of break up. Her beauty was leaving her somewhere, she had bags under her eyes, she was poking her head, and stopped taking care of herself.

She refused to shoot the films and rejected any role. I lost hope and thought that we’ll get divorced soon…

But then I decided to act on it. After all I’ve got the most beautiful woman on the earth. She is the idol of more than half of men and women on earth, and I was the one allowed to fall asleep next to her and to hug her shoulders.

I began to pamper her with flowers, kisses and compliments. I surprised her and pleased her every minute. I gave her lots of gifts and lived just for her. I spoke in public only about her. I incorporated all themes in her direction. I praised her in front of her own and our mutual friends.

You won’t believe it, but she blossomed. She became even better than before. She gained weight, was no longer nervous and she loved me even more than ever. I had no clue that she CAN love that much.

And then I realized one thing: The woman is the reflection of her man.

If you love her to the point of madness, she will become it. ” – Brad Pitt, A Secret of Love.

A Story of True Love and Acceptance

Nurse: “It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 am , when an elderly gentleman, in his 80′s, presented to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

I (nurse) took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound. While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation.

Asked him if he had a doctor’s appointment this morning somewhere else, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer Disease. As we talked, and I finished dressing his wound, I asked if she would be worried if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him. “And you are still going every morning, even though she doesn’t know who you are?” He smiled as he patted my hand and said. “She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.”

I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, “That is the kind of love I want in my life.”

True love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

Good friends are like stars…You don’t always see them, but you always know they’re there.

If You Sleep Naked, 7 Surprising Effect It’ll Have On Your Body.

How long can you stay naked without feeling uncomfortable? Most of us are not comfortable with our own bodies and thus, do not like sleeping naked. But it is a scientifically proven fact that sleeping naked has its benefits.

If you are sleeping without clothes, you are bound to have better sleep and lower levels of stress. Here are 7 amazing benefits of sleeping naked every night!

1. IMPROVES SPERM QUALITY

A new research reveals that men who sleep naked have better quality sperm. Tight boxers can increase the temperature of the testicles, which can cause the quality of a man’s sperm to decrease. Ditching them in favour of loose underwear during the day and nothing at night can bring about a 25pc increase in sperm quality, according to the research. This study supports the notion that keeping the testes cool is better for sperm function.

2. DEEPER SLEEP

Are you tormented by insomnia? Try sleeping naked for a change. Sleeping naked will help in maintaining the ideal body temperature to fall asleep. This will help you in having a deep and sound sleep without having to worry about drastically reducing the temperature of your air conditioner.

3. HIGHER RATE OF METABOLISM

When you are sleeping deeply, your body’s rate of metabolism rises. So basically you burn fat faster even while you are sleeping.

4. HIGHER OXYTOCIN

Oxytocin is a feel good hormone that is produced in the body during sexual intercourse. Sleeping naked gives a natural boost to your oxytocin level making you feel really sensual and happy.

5. SLOWS DOWN AGEING

When you sleep with clothes, your body gets warm and this interferes with the release of Human Growth Hormone that repairs skin cells. Sleeping without clothes keeps your body cool and also slows down the process of ageing. As your body produces more Human Growth Hormone, you will have fewer wrinkles.

6. IMPROVED BLOOD CIRCULATION

When you are lying down flat, your blood circulation slows down because there is no pull of gravity. Plus, the elastic bands and drawstrings of your night clothes further obstruct blood circulation. Sleeping naked can thus help your blood flow freely.

7. YOU STAY SLIM

When you have lower levels of stress hormone called cortisol and higher rate of metabolism, you will end up losing accumulated fat. It is a fact that people who sleep naked have lesser percentage of belly fat.

Nails In The Fence Story - A lesson about anger

 

There once was a young boy with a very bad temper. 

The boy's father wanted to teach him a lesson, so he gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper he must hammer a nail into their wooden fence.

On the first day of this lesson, the little boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. He was really mad!

Over the course of the next few weeks, the little boy began to control his temper, so the number of nails that were hammered into the fence dramatically decreased.

It wasn't long before the little boy discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Then, the day finally came when the little boy didn't lose his temper even once, and he became so proud of himself, he couldn't wait to tell his father.

Pleased, his father suggested that he now pull out one nail for each day that he could hold his temper.

Several weeks went by and the day finally came when the young boy was able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

Very gently, the father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

"You have done very well, my son," he smiled, "but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same."

The little boy listened carefully as his father continued to speak.

"When you say things in anger, they leave permanent scars just like these. And no matter how many times you say you're sorry, the wounds will still be there.

Be careful with YOUR words.

Maturity Of Six Year Old Boy

A 6 yr old boy was in the market with his 4 yr old sister. Suddenly the boy found that his sister was lagging behind.

He stopped and looked back. His sister was standing in front of a toy shop and was watching something with great interest.

The boy went back to her and asked, “Do you want something?” The sister pointed at the doll. The boy held her hand and like a responsible elder brother, gave that doll to her. The sister was very very happy…

The shopkeeper was watching everything and getting amused to see the matured behaviour of the boy…

Now the boy came to the counter and asked the shopkeeper, “What is the cost of this doll, Sir? !”

The shopkeeper was a cool man and had experienced the odds of life. So he asked the boy with a lot of love & affection, “Well, What can you pay?”

The boy took out all the shells that he had collected from sea shore, from his pocket and gave them to the shopkeeper. The shopkeeper took the shells and started counting as if he were counting the currency. Then he looked at the boy. The boy asked him worriedly, “Is it less?”

The shopkeeper said, “No, No… These are more than the cost. So I will return the remaining.” Saying so, he kept only 4 shells with him and returned the remaining.

The boy, very happily kept those shells back in his pocket and went away with his sister.

A servant in that shop got very surprised watching all these. He asked his master, “Sir ! You gave away such a costly doll just for 4 shells ???”

The shopkeeper said with a smile, “Well, for us these are mere shells.

But for that boy, these shells are very precious. And at this age he does not understand what money is, but when he will grow up, he definitely will. And when he would remember that he purchased a doll with the Shells instead of Money, he will remember me and think that world is full of Good people.

It will help him develop a positive attitude and he too in turn will feel motivated to be Good.”

Mind Mantra – Whatever emotion you infuse into the world, it will further spread. If you do good, goodness will spread. If you do bad, negativity will spread.

Realize you are a very powerful source of energy.

Your good or bad will come back to you magnified. Not in the ways you want it, and probably not in the ways you can understand it. But it will come back.

Loved it….hence posted.

Keep your circle positive. Don’t forget to share this piece of goodness with your circle.

6 Differences Between A Man Who Loves You And A Man Who Is Poisoning Your Life

Posted: 17 Oct 2016 01:49 AM PDT

It is not easy to find the real love. It is even harder to know whether or not it is real when you deal with mixed feelings. But, deep down we all have that voice in the back of our head that will not shut up. Have you ever asked yourself whether or not the man you are with is there for the right reasons? In this article, we will give you the six differences between a man who loves you and one who is poisoning your relationship and wasting your time.

1. Respectful vs. Tolerant

The real man, the man who loves you, will respect you and appreciate you for your strong opinions. But, on the other hand, there are men who will tell you that you are wrong or agree to let you think what you want, but without believing that your opinion is important as theirs.

2. Encouraging vs. Controlling

A man who loves a woman will encourage her to follow new opportunities and experiences. The real man may introduce her to a lot of new things, but the most important is that he will never force her into something she is not comfortable with.

3. Honest vs. Cruel

Men who love women will tell them what they need to hear. For example, if you ask him how you look in a pair of jeans and he tells you that you should change, that does not mean he is evil. He is just honest.  But, if a man who tells you to lose weight, he insults the things you like, or your style. You should know that he does it because he does not respect you and knows that if he is talking to you like that, he can get away.

4. Affectionate vs. Clingy

Do you want a man who will text, call and want to be with you 24/7?  Some women think that this sounds great, but they should think better of this, because constantly checking up on you and needing the reassurance of their place in your life, indicates that he is in this more for himself than for you. A man who loves you will certainly let it show both emotionally and physically. A clingy man has emotional problems and wants to talk to you so he feels validated, not so you feel good.

5. Protective vs. Possessive

It is natural to protect something you care about. In a case he keeps you in close sight and his arm around your shoulders while you two are out at the club, that is great. But, if he does not let you go anywhere alone or starts fights with men who try to talk to you, then he is possessive.

6. Serious vs. Interested

A man who is interested in you will talk to you when the times are convenient for him. This should be expected, if the relationship is new. But, if you two have been official for a while and he still only seems to talk when it is good for him, then it is obvious that he is not in love. You will know that he is the right man, when you take a step back and analyze your relationship, your interactions and your overall level of happiness.