Friday, 2 June 2017

"Anyone who does anything to help a child in his life is a hero to me."
--- Fred Rogers
Help a child
" It is hard to say goodbye to yesterday, but it is even harder to welcome today while holding on to yesterday's hurt."
--- Michael Smith --- St Kitts
let go of yesterday's hurt
"Success is the child of drudgery and perseverance ... pay the price and it is yours."
--- Orison Swett Marden
success is yours if you are willing to pay the price


"Today a new sun rises for me; everything lives, everything is animated, everything seems to speak to me of my passion, everything invites me to cherish it."
--- Anne De Lenclos
It is a new day
"People will tell you what is impossible - you must know it's possible. People will say what is wrong or right - you must decide for yourself. People will tell you what to believe in and what not to - be sure you know your feelings on any topic. People may say it is not your place - and you must know that it is."
--- Nicci Cettolin
you must know it is possible

Quote:
"Even in the storm, don't stop trying to fly."
--- Mohammed Sekouty
don't stop trying
"Strength does not come from winning. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength."
--- Mahatma Gandhi
Strength does not come from winning

Quote:
"If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change, you will get results."
--- Jack Dixon
focus on change to change your results

Thursday, 1 June 2017

"You may have beaten me once; you may have beaten me twice. But if you beat me a third time, I will be back for a fourth try!"
--- Kelly Moletress
You can knock me down, but I will get back up

Quote:
"There is no satisfaction that can compare with looking back across the years and finding you’ve grown in self-control, judgment, generosity, and unselfishness."
--- Ella Wheeler Wilcox
have you grown over the years?
Quote:
"You must go after your wish. As soon as you start to pursue a dream, your life wakes up and everything has meaning."
--- Barbara Sher
Are you pursuing a dream?

Quote:
"Small opportunities are often the beginning of great enterprises. Do not despise small beginnings."
--- Kwabena Opare Amoah
You have to start somewhere
Quote:
"Good things are coming down the road. Just don't stop walking."
--- Robert Warren Painter JR
Good things are coming, don't stop walking.

Quote:
"Whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe, and enthusiastically act upon must inevitably come to pass!"
--- Paul J. Meyer
Will your imagination bring your wish into reality?
Quote:
"Class is an aura of confidence that is being sure without being cocky. Class has nothing to do with money. Class never runs scared. It is self-discipline and self-knowledge. It's the sure footedness that comes with having proved you can meet life."
--- Ann Landers
You have class
Quote:
"When we create something, we always create it first in a thought form. If we are basically positive in attitude, expecting and envisioning pleasure, satisfaction and happiness, we will attract and create people, situations, and events which conform to our positive expectations."
--- Shakti Gawain

Live on the positive side.  There is so much good waiting out there for anyone who has the right attitude. Our thoughts create our lives.  If you live on the negative side, you will see much more negativity than someone who looks at the positive side of life.

The beautiful thing is you get to choose what you are thinking about.  
be positive and see what you attract back

Quote:
"Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude."
--- Denis Waitley
what is happiness?
Quote:
"If you have the courage to change yourself for the better, right at this very moment, then you are already a success. Moreover, the immense joy this will give you is far more important than any wealth."
--- Leandro E. Pasamba
It takes courage to change

Quote:
"Life is like a camera. Focus on what's important. Capture the good times. Develop from the negative, and if things don't work out... TAKE ANOTHER SHOT."
--- Author Unknown
If things don't work out, try again
Quote:
"I've been on the floor and I've been heartbroken. I didn't know how I was going to stand up. But I just gave it time. "
--- Sandra Bullock
Give everything time and you may heal

Quote:
"In life I hope to be remembered by my kindness, not popularity. I hope to bring a piece of joy to someone's day, not a rude comment. I hope to dedicate my life to helping others, not to ignoring them. And I hope to make the world a better place, not to just exist."
--- Heather C.
In life... I hope
"No matter what the level of your ability, you have more potential than you can ever develop in a lifetime."
--- James T. McCay
You have more potential than you realize

Quote:
"Motivation is everything. You can do the work of two people, but you can't be two people. Instead, you have to inspire the next guy down the line and get him to inspire his people."
--- Lee Iacocca
Motivation is everything!

Quote:
"As we express our gratitude we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them."
--- John Fitzgerald Kennedy
thank you for everything

Quote:
"Pray that success will not come any faster than you are able to endure it."
--- Benjamin Nnamdi Azikiwe
Hello opportunity!

Quote:
"There are no great people in this world, only great challenges which ordinary people rise to meet."
--- William Frederick Halsey, Jr.
You have more potential than you realize

Wednesday, 31 May 2017



“I love you” means that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you even when you’re in a bad mood, or too tired to do the things I want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with. “I love you” means that I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return that you do not judge me for mine. It means that I care enough to fight for what we have and that I love you enough not to let go. It means thinking of you, dreaming of you, wanting and needing you constantly, and hoping you feel the same way for me. ~ Jonathan Safran Foer

What men really want in a relationship are not superficial things in a relationship, such as the most beautiful girl with the best hourglass figure and looks, and a woman that is going to perform the best sexually. Men are looking for more complex attributes in a relationship.


1. Most times women hold back on taking the lead in a relationship, whereas men prefer his woman to take a lead occasionally. Even if he is a born leader this does not mean that, he expects to and enjoys this position all the time.

2. Men enjoy receiving respect. The other side of this is that women must win respect for the man and the man must win the respect of the woman. Very few people enjoy being belittled, being the butt of a joke or being mocked at. No one is perfect, this both the man and woman needs to be respected for who they are and both appreciates this set of values.

3. People in general enjoy the admiration for whom and what they are and have accomplished. All a man wants is the admiration of his woman in all phases of his life.

4. Men enjoy his woman to be gentle with him. He does not enjoy the fact that because he is the man of the house he needs to keep a stiff upper lip. Cuddling, hugging, reassurance of the woman’s love for him goes a long way in a relationship.

5. Men feel confident when they know their partner accepts for who they really are. Men feel secure when they know the woman understands them. It is only when the man knows he is accepted for who he is that he tries to make changes.

6. Men want to be able to verbally communicate with their partner. Unexpressed communication builds walls in a relationship.

7. Men want women to use some common sense when around other people, knowing when and when not to talk.

8. Women need to know that her partner just enjoys being a man with other men.

9. If the man’s partner has, friends that he really cannot stand being around do not make him spend hours with that person or persons.

10. A man enjoys his partner showing interest in his activities. A man appreciates it when his partner sits down to enjoy what he is doing such as watching a football game.

11. Every couple goes through trying times. Women expect the man to be strong, but secretly the man hopes the same in his partner, to be strong and weather the storm with him. Men do not appreciate being a babysitter for a weak woman.

12. Never let on to the man that his mother is one of the worst human beings on earth. Men want their mother and partner to get along and be happy. Women need to do what they can to prune this relationship.

13. Some things in life are not worth the energy harping on. Overlook simple, trivial things in life and get on with life.

14. Most men enjoy watching movies or television series in the fantasy arena. Most women enjoy watching other things. Give fantasy viewing a try and know what you are watching with your man so that you are not in the dark.

15. Some men seem to like the glitz and glitter of makeup and evening ware, sometimes, but way down deep most men like natural even better such as no makeup, and casual attire with a carefree attitude.

Personal experience as a leader for Interfaith Marriage Encounter sessions.


Moment of thinking… These are few questions asked in HR interview! The answers are really stunning and inspiring. Thinking out of the box! A must read…

Question 1:

You are driving along in your car on a wild, stormy night, it’s raining heavily, when suddenly you pass by a bus stop, and you see three people waiting for a bus:

* An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.

* An old friend who once saved your life.

* The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.

Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing very well that there could only be one passenger in your car?

This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application.

He simply answered:
“I would give the car keys to my Old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams.”

Sometimes, we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought limitations. Never forget to “Think Outside of the Box.”

Question 2:

What will you do if I run away with your sister?

The candidate who was selected answered ” I will not get a better match for my sister than you sir”

Question 3:

Interviewer (to a student girl candidate) – What is one morning you woke up & found that you were pregnant.

Girl – I will be very excited and take an off, to celebrate with my husband.

Normally an unmarried girl will be shocked to hear this, but she managed it well. Why I should think it in the wrong way, she said later when asked.

Question 4:

Interviewer: He ordered a cup of coffee for the candidate. Coffee arrived kept before the candidate, then he asked what is before you?

Candidate: Instantly replied “Tea”

He got selected.

You know how and why did he say “TEA” when he knows very well that coffee was kept before.

(Answer: The question was “What is before you (U – alphabet) Reply was “TEA” ( T – alphabet)

Alphabet “T” was before Alphabet “U”


Question5;

Interviewer said “I shall either ask you ten easy questions or one really difficult question.

Think well before you make up your mind!” The boy thought for a while and said, “my choice is one really difficult question.”

“Well, good luck to you, you have made your own choice! Now tell me this. “What comes first, Day or Night?”

The boy was jolted into reality as his admission depends on the correctness of his answer, but he thought for a while and said, “It’s the DAY sir!”

“How” the interviewer asked,

“Sorry sir, you promised me that you will not ask me a SECOND difficult question!”

Sometimes just thinking out of the box is all it takes!

Share with your friend and give them a special moment of thinking…!!

Stress is the main reason for the appearance of numerous medical conditions and illnesses, but not everyone is aware of this, although experts always warn about the consequences of stress.
Stress can be a very serious thing, particularly when it cannot be noticed immediately due to some unclear symptoms of stress. So experts recommend managing to lower the stress and calm down because it is very important in order to protect your health from numerous medical conditions.
Here are the usual symptoms that you are overstressed.

1. Hair loss


One day, a young guy and a young girl fell in love.

But the guy came from a poor family. The girl’s parents weren’t too happy.

So the young man decided not only to court the girl but to court her parents as well. In time, the parents saw that he was a good man and was worthy of their daughter’s hand.

But there was another problem: The man was a soldier. Soon, war broke out and he was being sent overseas for a year. The week before he left, the man knelt on his knee and asked his lady love, “Will you marry me?” She wiped a tear, said yes, and they were engaged. They agreed that when he got back in one year, they would get married.

But tragedy struck. A few days after he left, the girl had a major vehicular accident. It was a head-on collision.

When she woke up in the hospital, she saw her father and mother crying. Immediately, she knew there was something wrong.

She later found out that she suffered brain injury. The part of her brain that controlled her face muscles was damaged. Her once lovely face was now disfigured. She cried as she saw herself in the mirror. “Yesterday, I was beautiful. Today, I’m a monster.” Her body was also covered with so many ugly wounds.

Right there and then, she decided to release her fiance from their promise. She knew he wouldn’t want her anymore. She would forget about him and never see him again.

For one year, the soldier wrote many letters—but she wouldn’t answer. He phoned her many times but she wouldn’t return her calls.

But after one year, the mother walked into her room and announced, “He’s back from the war.”

The girl shouted, “No! Please don’t tell him about me. Don’t tell him I’m here!”


The mother said, “He’s getting married,” and handed her a wedding invitation.

The girl’s heart sank. She knew she still loved him—but she had to forget him now.

With great sadness, she opened the wedding invitation.

And then she saw her name on it!

Confused, she asked, “What is this?”

That was when the young man entered her room with a bouquet of flowers. He knelt beside her and asked, “Will you marry me?”

The girl covered her face with her hands and said, “I’m ugly!”

The man said, “Without your permission, your mother sent me your photos. When I saw your photos, I realized that nothing has changed. You’re still the person I fell in love. You’re still as beautiful as ever. Because I love you!”

When it comes to the one a woman loves, she will leave her comfort zone without question to make him happy, and take care of little things for him. Many women are givers, this is one way to show their love and care. If you know a woman who is ready to put effort into your happiness, don’t ever let her go, she is priceless.


A good woman may be hard to find, but they do exist. If you find a woman with the following qualities never let her go because she is the right one for you, who can change your life:
• She frequently does little things for you
It’s important for men to consistently be romantic and caring towards their women always, not just in the beginning of the relationship. You may be taken for granted for your giving behavior but the woman who values your love is the right one.

If she is willing to go the extra mile and do small things for you out of love without any expectations, it’s a great sign that she’s a keeper.

• The one who is smarter than you
A guy needs a woman who is smart enough to set things right in his disorganized life. She can make your life meaningful and help keep you from bad decisions. They are right when they say that behind every successful man there is a strong woman.

• The one who makes you want to be better
When Ms. Right walks into your life you may start paying more attention to it, you want to do better and excel in every field. Suddenly you start paying attention to your looks. She ignites the fire within you to do something big. Hold onto her and do wonders in your life.

• The one who tells you when you are wrong
Every man needs someone who will tell him, nicely, when he is wrong. There is an innate quality in many to make poor decisions. Being with a woman who keeps you on the right path and tells you when you are wrong is the best decision you can make.

• The one who is kind and nurturing
A kind woman is a good woman. Anyone who is not kind is not worth it. Being a nurturer is an excellent quality. If you want to have children, or if you already do, look for a mate who also wants children.

• The one who helps you find your happy
Being happy is important, and while happiness lies within us, there are people who make it harder to be happy around them. Happiness is something you feel, you should not have to make a huge effort to achieve it. Celebrate the little moments together, survive the bad times together, support each other, and you will feel good about being with her.

• One who is vivacious
Life can get boring at times, but if you have a partner who is vivacious, energetic, adventurous, and full of life, she can help turn dull moments into lively ones.

• One who can compromise
We are all stubborn in our own way, we want things to go our way, some of us do not easily adapt to change and get anxious trying to control outcomes. Relationships, however, require compromise. If she is ready to compromise with you then she is worth it.

• One who is strong and passionate
She may be the one for you if she is a combination of strength, passion, and femininity. A life without passion can be dull. If you believe she is passionate about you and has the strength to walk by your side then make her your life partner and never leave.

• The one who loves you
Last but not the least, the basic essential of a happy life is a loving partner. The one who will care for you and respect those who are important to you will always make you proud. If your girl is completely in love with you, good points and bad, don’t ever take her for granted. Let her know you love her too.


12 Steps For Self Care:
1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it. 
2. Say “exactly” what you mean. 
3. Don’t be a people pleaser. 
4. Trust your instincts. 
5. Never speak bad about yourself. 
6. Never give up on your dreams. 
7. Don’t be afraid to say “No”. 
8. Don’t be afraid to say “Yes”. 
9. Be KIND to yourself. 
10. Let go of what you can’t control. 
11. Stay away from drama & negativity. 
12. LOVE



No matter if you’re single or married … you have to read this: When I got home that night as my wife served me dinner, I grab her hand and said “I have something to tell you.” She sat down and ate quietly. I watched and saw the pain in her eyes. Suddenly I did not know how to open my mouth, but I had to tell her what I was thinking: “I want a divorce”. She did not seem upset by my words and asked me softly, why? You’re not a man?

That night we did not talk, and she cried. She wanted to know what was happening to me …

-It was something with our marriage, but I could not answer what exactly. It happened that she had lost my heart, and I had another woman named Joan. I no longer loved my wife, but I pitied her. With a great sense of guilt, I wrote a divorce agreement and with this agreement she got the house, the car and 30% of our business.

She looked at the agreement and threw it away. She spent 10 years of her life with me and now we were like strangers. I pitied her, for all the lost time, energy was not the same but it could not change. I loved Joan. Suddenly she started screaming. The idea of divorce was now clearer to me.

The next day I came home and I found myself writing at the table. I did not eat dinner and went to sleep, I was very tired having spent the day with Juana. When I woke up, my wife was still writing at the table. I did not mind, I turned around and continued sleeping. In the morning my wife introduced me to divorce conditions: She did not want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce.

She asked me for a month, we would have to live as if nothing happened. Her reason was simple, our son had whole month of tests and she did not want to bother him with our broken marriage. I agreed, but she had another request: to agree upon me carrying her to our room like the day we got married. I thought she was going crazy, but that this alone was accepted.

My wife and I had no physical contact since I expressed my intention to divorce, so when I took her to the front door the first day, we both feel bad. Our son walked behind with clapping and saying: Dad is carrying mom is his arms! His words gave me a lot of pain.

I walked the 10 meters with my wife in my arms. She closed her eyes and said quietly: do not tell our son about the divorce. Then I went to work. I drove alone to work. The second day, we were both more relaxed.

She leaned against my chest, I could feel the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I had not looked at it carefully. I realized she was no longer so young, had some wrinkles, some gray hairs … that was notable a damage of our marriage. For a moment I thought and I ask: what was it I did? The fourth day, I felt some affection was returning between us. This was the woman who gave me 10 years of her life. In the fifth and sixth day, it continued to. I said nothing about Joan.

Every other day it was easier to carry my wife and month was running. I thought I was getting used to her weight. One morning, she was looking for what to wear. She had tried many dresses on, but all of them were too big. It was then that I realized she was very thin, and that was the reason that I did not feel her weight load. Suddenly I realized that I had provoked much pain and bitterness.

Without realizing it, she touched my hair. Our son entered the room and said, Dad, it is time that you take Mom to the door! For my son, seeing his father day after day carry her mother to the door, that had become an essential part of his life. My wife hugged him, I covered my face. I was afraid I changed my thinking about divorce. And holding my wife in my arms to the door, it felt like the first day of our wedding.

She stroked my neck soft and naturally. I held her strong, just like our wedding night. I hugged her and did not move, but she was so thin and that made me sad. The last day I just hugged her and did not want to move, I told her I did not realize that we had no privacy. Our son was at school. I drove to the office, I left the car without closing the door, I climbed the stairs, Joan opened the door, and I said, excuse me, sorry, I do not want to divorce my wife.

Joan looked at me and asked me if I had a fever. I said:

My wife and I love each other, it was that we were doing everything as a routine and boring. We did not value the details of our life since I started carrying her to the room. Joan began to mourn, slapped me and closed the door. Going down the stairs, I went in the car and went to the florist.

I bought my wife flowers. The girl in the florist asked me what to write on the card? I told her to put: I will carry you every morning until death parts us. I arrived at my house with flowers in my hands and smile, and ran up the stairs; when I went … I found my dead wife. My wife was battling cancer, and I was so busy with Joan, so I did not realize. My wife knew she was dying and that is why she asked for a month’s notice before the divorce, so that our son will not have bad memories of divorce.

At least in my son’s eyes, the memory of his father who was a good husband who loved his wife will stay. These small details are what matters in a relationship, not the house, the car, the money in the bank. All this only creates an environment that you think will lead to happiness, but really … is not. Try to keep your marriage happy, share this story on your wall, you may be saving a marriage. All the stories of failure are equal; they give up when they are about to enter to success. We do not know what we have until we lose it…

If you are married or if you are still single, we hope this made you think a little.


There is a story about how Albert Einstein was traveling to universities, giving lectures on his famous theory of relativity. One day while on their way to a university,

The driver said:" Dr. Einstein, I've heard that lecture more than 30 times. I have learned it by heart and bet I could give it myself."


"Well, I'll give you the chance," said Einstein,

"They don't know me at the next school, so when we get there I'll put on your cap and you introduce yourself as me and give the lecture." Einstein continued.

At the hall, the driver gave Einstein's lecture so wonderfully that he didn't make any mistakes.

When he finished, he started to leave, but one of the professors stopped him and asked him a question which was very difficult. The aim of the question was not gaining knowledge but embarrassing Einstein.

The driver thought fast.

"The answer to that problem is so simple," he said,
"I'm surprised you have to ask me. In fact, to show you just how simple it is, I'm going to ask my driver to come up here and answer your question."!

Then Einstein stood up and gave an incredible answer to the question of that professor.

Moral of the story: No matter how genius you pretend to be, there is always someone who is more genius than you despite his position.

"Anyone who does anything to help a child in his life is a hero to me." --- Fred Rogers