What “I love you” means. “I love you” means that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you even when you’re in a bad mood, or too tired to do the things I want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with. “I love you” means that I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return that you do not judge me for mine. It means that I care enough to fight for what we have and that I love you enough not to let go. It means thinking of you, dreaming of you, wanting and needing you constantly, and hoping you feel the same way for me. ~ Jonathan Safran Foer

15 Things Men Really Want In A Relationship What men really want in a relationship are not superficial things in a relationship, such as the most beautiful girl with the best hourglass figure and looks, and a woman that is going to perform the best sexually. Men are looking for more complex attributes in a relationship. 1. Most times women hold back on taking the lead in a relationship, whereas men prefer his woman to take a lead occasionally. Even if he is a born leader this does not mean that, he expects to and enjoys this position all the time. 2. Men enjoy receiving respect. The other side of this is that women must win respect for the man and the man must win the respect of the woman. Very few people enjoy being belittled, being the butt of a joke or being mocked at. No one is perfect, this both the man and woman needs to be respected for who they are and both appreciates this set of values. 3. People in general enjoy the admiration for whom and what they are and have accomplished. All a man wants is the admiration of his woman in all phases of his life. 4. Men enjoy his woman to be gentle with him. He does not enjoy the fact that because he is the man of the house he needs to keep a stiff upper lip. Cuddling, hugging, reassurance of the woman’s love for him goes a long way in a relationship. 5. Men feel confident when they know their partner accepts for who they really are. Men feel secure when they know the woman understands them. It is only when the man knows he is accepted for who he is that he tries to make changes. 6. Men want to be able to verbally communicate with their partner. Unexpressed communication builds walls in a relationship. 7. Men want women to use some common sense when around other people, knowing when and when not to talk. 8. Women need to know that her partner just enjoys being a man with other men. 9. If the man’s partner has, friends that he really cannot stand being around do not make him spend hours with that person or persons. 10. A man enjoys his partner showing interest in his activities. A man appreciates it when his partner sits down to enjoy what he is doing such as watching a football game. 11. Every couple goes through trying times. Women expect the man to be strong, but secretly the man hopes the same in his partner, to be strong and weather the storm with him. Men do not appreciate being a babysitter for a weak woman. 12. Never let on to the man that his mother is one of the worst human beings on earth. Men want their mother and partner to get along and be happy. Women need to do what they can to prune this relationship. 13. Some things in life are not worth the energy harping on. Overlook simple, trivial things in life and get on with life. 14. Most men enjoy watching movies or television series in the fantasy arena. Most women enjoy watching other things. Give fantasy viewing a try and know what you are watching with your man so that you are not in the dark. 15. Some men seem to like the glitz and glitter of makeup and evening ware, sometimes, but way down deep most men like natural even better such as no makeup, and casual attire with a carefree attitude. Personal experience as a leader for Interfaith Marriage Encounter sessions.

The Best Job Interview Answers Ever. This Man Just Nailed It. Moment of thinking… These are few questions asked in HR interview! The answers are really stunning and inspiring. Thinking out of the box! A must read… Question 1: You are driving along in your car on a wild, stormy night, it’s raining heavily, when suddenly you pass by a bus stop, and you see three people waiting for a bus: * An old lady who looks as if she is about to die. * An old friend who once saved your life. * The perfect partner you have been dreaming about. Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing very well that there could only be one passenger in your car? This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application. He simply answered: “I would give the car keys to my Old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams.” Sometimes, we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought limitations. Never forget to “Think Outside of the Box.” Question 2: What will you do if I run away with your sister? The candidate who was selected answered ” I will not get a better match for my sister than you sir” Question 3: Interviewer (to a student girl candidate) – What is one morning you woke up & found that you were pregnant. Girl – I will be very excited and take an off, to celebrate with my husband. Normally an unmarried girl will be shocked to hear this, but she managed it well. Why I should think it in the wrong way, she said later when asked. Question 4: Interviewer: He ordered a cup of coffee for the candidate. Coffee arrived kept before the candidate, then he asked what is before you? Candidate: Instantly replied “Tea” He got selected. You know how and why did he say “TEA” when he knows very well that coffee was kept before. (Answer: The question was “What is before you (U – alphabet) Reply was “TEA” ( T – alphabet) Alphabet “T” was before Alphabet “U” Question5; Interviewer said “I shall either ask you ten easy questions or one really difficult question. Think well before you make up your mind!” The boy thought for a while and said, “my choice is one really difficult question.” “Well, good luck to you, you have made your own choice! Now tell me this. “What comes first, Day or Night?” The boy was jolted into reality as his admission depends on the correctness of his answer, but he thought for a while and said, “It’s the DAY sir!” “How” the interviewer asked, “Sorry sir, you promised me that you will not ask me a SECOND difficult question!” Sometimes just thinking out of the box is all it takes! Share with your friend and give them a special moment of thinking…!!

DO NOT Ignore These 9 Symptoms Of Stress!

Stress is the main reason for the appearance of numerous medical conditions and illnesses, but not everyone is aware of this, although experts always warn about the consequences of stress.

Stress can be a very serious thing, particularly when it cannot be noticed immediately due to some unclear symptoms of stress. So experts recommend managing to lower the stress and calm down because it is very important in order to protect your health from numerous medical conditions.

Here are the usual symptoms that you are overstressed.

1. Hair loss

Carolyn Jacob, who is the medical director and founder of Chicago Cosmetic Surgery and Dermatology, says that approximately 100 hairs are lost every day and we are not even aware of this. Stress is the main reason for increased hair loss and a lot of hair is in resting phase, because stress can cause an alteration in the normal body’s physiologic functions.

After three or four months, the amount of lost hair gets bigger because the hair in the resting phase falls down. This is a very negative result. The changes in the hair are mainly due to the overstressed body says Carolyn Jacob.

If you are experiencing any hair loss, check the amount of stress in the body if you want to find out the cause for this problem.

2. Weight variations

Stress can also be the cause for some weight variations, because stress can lead to losing weight due to appetite loss, but also can be responsible for gaining weigh due to reduced metabolism. So if you notice any of these changes, you need to check the stress levels in the body and try to reduce them immediately.

3. Constantly feeling anxious and not able to sit still

Constantly feeling uncomfortable, anxious and restless is a symptom that you are overstressed. You need to take some measures in order to solve this condition and face the problem. If you do not take immediate action, it will only worsen.

4. Weakened libido

Stress can also be the reason for weakened libido, as it lowers the number of hormones for sexual activity. Stress can lead to impotence and exhaustion.

In order to preserve the love life and the sexual life, you can practice some technique to relax your body. And another solution for this may be a simple conversation with your partner about this problem.

5. Sleeping issues

Sleeping problems can also occur because of too much stress, so if you notice any changes in your sleeping routine, or you cannot sleep enough or even sleeping a lot because you feel exhausted, you should deal with the problem which causes you stress.

Your body is always fighting with stress in its own way. So you need to define the source for the problems that leave you without a good sleep.

When dealing with stress, the first thing that changes is the sleeping routine. You should find a solution to cope with stress as soon as possible, such as meditation, healthy diet, exercise or yoga.

6. Mood changes

Your mood can change drastically when stress affects the levels of your hormones. It can cause further complications like obsessive-compulsive disorder, many mental-health problems, addictions or anxiety. So consult someone about your problems as soon as possible in order to protect your overall health.

7. Body pain

Body pain is often the first symptom for a serious health issue, so you should definitely examine the source of the pain. Stress can be the reason for the body’s malfunctioning and can lead to palpitation, tense muscles, diarrhea, ulcers, stomach problems, or chest pain.

Stress can worsen your headaches, cause pain in the whole body and cause severe arthritis. So you should help your body deal with the problems by reducing the level of stress and improve your health.

8. Lack of patience

The daily problems can make you lose patience for everything and everyone around you and you will be irritated, intolerant, angry and impatient. So deal with your stress level and reduce it quickly in order to prevent further complications.

9. Thinking about your work all the time

If you are overstressed you cannot take your mind of your job, obligations and finances. You need to relax. Step away from the problem and slowly find a solution for it.

If you are constantly thinking about the problem it will only worsen your situation and lead to physical and psychological issues. Try to relax for a change, and do not worry about your work problems. Enjoy in some family time and relax.

Military: A Beautiful True Love Story One day, a young guy and a young girl fell in love. But the guy came from a poor family. The girl’s parents weren’t too happy. So the young man decided not only to court the girl but to court her parents as well. In time, the parents saw that he was a good man and was worthy of their daughter’s hand. But there was another problem: The man was a soldier. Soon, war broke out and he was being sent overseas for a year. The week before he left, the man knelt on his knee and asked his lady love, “Will you marry me?” She wiped a tear, said yes, and they were engaged. They agreed that when he got back in one year, they would get married. But tragedy struck. A few days after he left, the girl had a major vehicular accident. It was a head-on collision. When she woke up in the hospital, she saw her father and mother crying. Immediately, she knew there was something wrong. She later found out that she suffered brain injury. The part of her brain that controlled her face muscles was damaged. Her once lovely face was now disfigured. She cried as she saw herself in the mirror. “Yesterday, I was beautiful. Today, I’m a monster.” Her body was also covered with so many ugly wounds. Right there and then, she decided to release her fiance from their promise. She knew he wouldn’t want her anymore. She would forget about him and never see him again. For one year, the soldier wrote many letters—but she wouldn’t answer. He phoned her many times but she wouldn’t return her calls. But after one year, the mother walked into her room and announced, “He’s back from the war.” The girl shouted, “No! Please don’t tell him about me. Don’t tell him I’m here!” The mother said, “He’s getting married,” and handed her a wedding invitation. The girl’s heart sank. She knew she still loved him—but she had to forget him now. With great sadness, she opened the wedding invitation. And then she saw her name on it! Confused, she asked, “What is this?” That was when the young man entered her room with a bouquet of flowers. He knelt beside her and asked, “Will you marry me?” The girl covered her face with her hands and said, “I’m ugly!” The man said, “Without your permission, your mother sent me your photos. When I saw your photos, I realized that nothing has changed. You’re still the person I fell in love. You’re still as beautiful as ever. Because I love you!”

If A Woman Has These 10 Qualities You Should Never Let Her Go When it comes to the one a woman loves, she will leave her comfort zone without question to make him happy, and take care of little things for him. Many women are givers, this is one way to show their love and care. If you know a woman who is ready to put effort into your happiness, don’t ever let her go, she is priceless. A good woman may be hard to find, but they do exist. If you find a woman with the following qualities never let her go because she is the right one for you, who can change your life: • She frequently does little things for you It’s important for men to consistently be romantic and caring towards their women always, not just in the beginning of the relationship. You may be taken for granted for your giving behavior but the woman who values your love is the right one. If she is willing to go the extra mile and do small things for you out of love without any expectations, it’s a great sign that she’s a keeper. • The one who is smarter than you A guy needs a woman who is smart enough to set things right in his disorganized life. She can make your life meaningful and help keep you from bad decisions. They are right when they say that behind every successful man there is a strong woman. • The one who makes you want to be better When Ms. Right walks into your life you may start paying more attention to it, you want to do better and excel in every field. Suddenly you start paying attention to your looks. She ignites the fire within you to do something big. Hold onto her and do wonders in your life. • The one who tells you when you are wrong Every man needs someone who will tell him, nicely, when he is wrong. There is an innate quality in many to make poor decisions. Being with a woman who keeps you on the right path and tells you when you are wrong is the best decision you can make. • The one who is kind and nurturing A kind woman is a good woman. Anyone who is not kind is not worth it. Being a nurturer is an excellent quality. If you want to have children, or if you already do, look for a mate who also wants children. • The one who helps you find your happy Being happy is important, and while happiness lies within us, there are people who make it harder to be happy around them. Happiness is something you feel, you should not have to make a huge effort to achieve it. Celebrate the little moments together, survive the bad times together, support each other, and you will feel good about being with her. • One who is vivacious Life can get boring at times, but if you have a partner who is vivacious, energetic, adventurous, and full of life, she can help turn dull moments into lively ones. • One who can compromise We are all stubborn in our own way, we want things to go our way, some of us do not easily adapt to change and get anxious trying to control outcomes. Relationships, however, require compromise. If she is ready to compromise with you then she is worth it. • One who is strong and passionate She may be the one for you if she is a combination of strength, passion, and femininity. A life without passion can be dull. If you believe she is passionate about you and has the strength to walk by your side then make her your life partner and never leave. • The one who loves you Last but not the least, the basic essential of a happy life is a loving partner. The one who will care for you and respect those who are important to you will always make you proud. If your girl is completely in love with you, good points and bad, don’t ever take her for granted. Let her know you love her too.

12 Steps For Self Care: 12 Steps For Self Care: 1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it.  2. Say “exactly” what you mean.  3. Don’t be a people pleaser.  4. Trust your instincts.  5. Never speak bad about yourself.  6. Never give up on your dreams.  7. Don’t be afraid to say “No”.  8. Don’t be afraid to say “Yes”.  9. Be KIND to yourself.  10. Let go of what you can’t control.  11. Stay away from drama & negativity.  12. LOVE

Single Or Married You Must Immediately Read This... It Will Shock You For Sure!

No matter if you’re single or married … you have to read this: When I got home that night as my wife served me dinner, I grab her hand and said “I have something to tell you.” She sat down and ate quietly. I watched and saw the pain in her eyes. Suddenly I did not know how to open my mouth, but I had to tell her what I was thinking: “I want a divorce”. She did not seem upset by my words and asked me softly, why? You’re not a man?

That night we did not talk, and she cried. She wanted to know what was happening to me …

-It was something with our marriage, but I could not answer what exactly. It happened that she had lost my heart, and I had another woman named Joan. I no longer loved my wife, but I pitied her. With a great sense of guilt, I wrote a divorce agreement and with this agreement she got the house, the car and 30% of our business.

She looked at the agreement and threw it away. She spent 10 years of her life with me and now we were like strangers. I pitied her, for all the lost time, energy was not the same but it could not change. I loved Joan. Suddenly she started screaming. The idea of divorce was now clearer to me.

The next day I came home and I found myself writing at the table. I did not eat dinner and went to sleep, I was very tired having spent the day with Juana. When I woke up, my wife was still writing at the table. I did not mind, I turned around and continued sleeping. In the morning my wife introduced me to divorce conditions: She did not want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce.

She asked me for a month, we would have to live as if nothing happened. Her reason was simple, our son had whole month of tests and she did not want to bother him with our broken marriage. I agreed, but she had another request: to agree upon me carrying her to our room like the day we got married. I thought she was going crazy, but that this alone was accepted.

My wife and I had no physical contact since I expressed my intention to divorce, so when I took her to the front door the first day, we both feel bad. Our son walked behind with clapping and saying: Dad is carrying mom is his arms! His words gave me a lot of pain.

I walked the 10 meters with my wife in my arms. She closed her eyes and said quietly: do not tell our son about the divorce. Then I went to work. I drove alone to work. The second day, we were both more relaxed.

She leaned against my chest, I could feel the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I had not looked at it carefully. I realized she was no longer so young, had some wrinkles, some gray hairs … that was notable a damage of our marriage. For a moment I thought and I ask: what was it I did? The fourth day, I felt some affection was returning between us. This was the woman who gave me 10 years of her life. In the fifth and sixth day, it continued to. I said nothing about Joan.

Every other day it was easier to carry my wife and month was running. I thought I was getting used to her weight. One morning, she was looking for what to wear. She had tried many dresses on, but all of them were too big. It was then that I realized she was very thin, and that was the reason that I did not feel her weight load. Suddenly I realized that I had provoked much pain and bitterness.

Without realizing it, she touched my hair. Our son entered the room and said, Dad, it is time that you take Mom to the door! For my son, seeing his father day after day carry her mother to the door, that had become an essential part of his life. My wife hugged him, I covered my face. I was afraid I changed my thinking about divorce. And holding my wife in my arms to the door, it felt like the first day of our wedding.

She stroked my neck soft and naturally. I held her strong, just like our wedding night. I hugged her and did not move, but she was so thin and that made me sad. The last day I just hugged her and did not want to move, I told her I did not realize that we had no privacy. Our son was at school. I drove to the office, I left the car without closing the door, I climbed the stairs, Joan opened the door, and I said, excuse me, sorry, I do not want to divorce my wife.

Joan looked at me and asked me if I had a fever. I said:

My wife and I love each other, it was that we were doing everything as a routine and boring. We did not value the details of our life since I started carrying her to the room. Joan began to mourn, slapped me and closed the door. Going down the stairs, I went in the car and went to the florist.

I bought my wife flowers. The girl in the florist asked me what to write on the card? I told her to put: I will carry you every morning until death parts us. I arrived at my house with flowers in my hands and smile, and ran up the stairs; when I went … I found my dead wife. My wife was battling cancer, and I was so busy with Joan, so I did not realize. My wife knew she was dying and that is why she asked for a month’s notice before the divorce, so that our son will not have bad memories of divorce.

At least in my son’s eyes, the memory of his father who was a good husband who loved his wife will stay. These small details are what matters in a relationship, not the house, the car, the money in the bank. All this only creates an environment that you think will lead to happiness, but really … is not. Try to keep your marriage happy, share this story on your wall, you may be saving a marriage. All the stories of failure are equal; they give up when they are about to enter to success. We do not know what we have until we lose it…

If you are married or if you are still single, we hope this made you think a little.

Intelligent Story: The Genius Einstein's Driver There is a story about how Albert Einstein was traveling to universities, giving lectures on his famous theory of relativity. One day while on their way to a university, The driver said:" Dr. Einstein, I've heard that lecture more than 30 times. I have learned it by heart and bet I could give it myself." "Well, I'll give you the chance," said Einstein, "They don't know me at the next school, so when we get there I'll put on your cap and you introduce yourself as me and give the lecture." Einstein continued. At the hall, the driver gave Einstein's lecture so wonderfully that he didn't make any mistakes. When he finished, he started to leave, but one of the professors stopped him and asked him a question which was very difficult. The aim of the question was not gaining knowledge but embarrassing Einstein. The driver thought fast. "The answer to that problem is so simple," he said, "I'm surprised you have to ask me. In fact, to show you just how simple it is, I'm going to ask my driver to come up here and answer your question."! Then Einstein stood up and gave an incredible answer to the question of that professor. ~ Moral of the story: No matter how genius you pretend to be, there is always someone who is more genius than you despite his position.

10 Dream Symbols You Should Never Ignore Posted: 17 May 2017 03:46 AM PDT Here are 10 Things You Should Never Ignore About Your Dreams 1. FLYING Dreams of flying often indicate the need to reach ambition. Where are you going? How are you getting there? Are you having trouble navigating through life? Flying dreams tend to leave us recharged when we wake. There is a feeling of freedom and being able to accomplish anything in our way. 2. WATERFALLS When we dream of water it usually conveys the emotional state of the mind. Water symbolizes cleansing and purity. To dream of waterfalls is a great omen. This represents new beginnings as the old is washed out. If you see waterfalls in your dreams, ask yourself these questions: Is the waterfall a small one or a large one? How are you perceiving your obstacles? Is the waterfall in a dark jungle or a beautiful beach? 3. TEETH Dreams with teeth are very common. Not all teeth dreams symbolize aging. Pulling of teeth symbolizes something that needs to come out, while rotten teeth symbolize the holding of fear and anxiety. Dreaming of falling teeth are the most typical of all teeth dreams. They are usually derived to new situations that cause stress: a new job, fear of loss, lack of power in a relationship, or lies that are being kept hidden. If you see teeth in your dreams, ask yourself these questions: How do you feel about your teeth? We use our teeth to nourish the body. How are we nourishing our lives? 4. DEATH Dreaming with death is more common than most people admit. As morbid as it feels, to dream of death usually symbolizes the ending of something. Death is the termination of ego parts. There is the death of anxiety and anger. The death of a situation. There is the death of an idea allowing for the birth of another. Dreaming of death or dying can be a psychological aspect of working tremendous changes in emotions. If you see death in your dreams, ask yourself these questions: Where you the one who died? Was it a loved one? These dreams can also be guidance from a departed loved one trying to give comfort. 5. PREGNANT Dreaming of being pregnant symbolizes a major growth and development. It can be geared to future projects and desires. If you visualize pregnancy in your dreams, ask yourself these questions: What are you trying to create? What transformation are you encountering in your waking life? Are you pregnant with possibilities? Pregnant dreams can bring fruitful ideas for a job or relationship. 6. HOUSES Dreams of houses symbolize the self and the different aspects of personality. Depending on the type of house or the different rooms the interpretation can deepen. Houses are about security and comfort. An attic symbolizes hidden memories, while a basement can mean intuition and the unconscious mind. If you see houses in your dreams, ask yourself: How are you taking care of your body? How do you perceive yourself out in the world? 7. MONEY Money dreams can allow us to wake with such gratitude. Dreaming with money is about luck and how we perceive our self-worth. Winning the lottery symbolizes a change in lifestyle while dreaming of giving money away is a fear of loss. Money dreams pertain to the core of our emotions towards the abundance and prosperity. Financial stability or losses are often stress factors in our lives. If you see money in your dreams, ask yourself: Did you lose your job? Are you in debt? What would you do if you won the lottery? The relationship with finances is one that rarely leaves the mind during waking moments. Money symbolizes the flow of life. 8. ADULTERY Dreaming of adultery signifies sexual desires and urges that are repressed or are needing to be expressed. These type of dreams also carry abandonment and fears, self-worth issues, and an unconscious acceptance of a problematic relationship. If adultery appears in your dreams, ask yourself: Are you afraid of losing a loved one? Are you unhappy in your own relationship? How do you feel about your body and desires? 9. FIRE Fire dreams can have several meanings depending on the context of the dream. Seeing fire in a distance symbolizes desire and transformation, while playing with fire can be a warning of risky activities. If you dream of starting a fire it symbolizes anger that is being repressed. Ask yourself: Do you avoid risky situations? Do you spend your day putting out fires? 10. NAKED Dreams of being naked are very common. They connect to our fear of being exposed. If the dream is about someone else being naked it signifies “the naked truth” of a situation or foretell an illicit affair. It can also mean the loss of respect. Nakedness is about accepting flaws and imperfections. Just like in waking moments it is about how much is exposed to the world of the self. If you are naked in a dream, ask yourself: Are you afraid of being seen for who you are? Are you over exposing yourself? Dreams represent episodes of our lives that can be analyzed in millions of ways, and the dreamer is the only one who can figure out the true emotional state of the dream. These are only a few suggestions into the world of night visions; the mind, body and spirit are intertwined and how we perceive the self plays over and over during our sleep. The mind will try desperately to dictate, through short visions, how our emotions are being played. Anxiety or joy can change the way we sleep. It’s up to us to truly be aware how we carry ourselves during waking ours. “Dreams…are invariably seeking to express something that the ego does not know and does not understand.” – Carl Jung

12 Habits of Unhappy People (and How to Avoid Having Them) Posted: 18 May 2017 05:56 AM PDT Happiness is something that we all strive to attain. As human beings we can accept the fact that: (a) life is short, and (b) unhappiness makes our lives difficult. As is common knowledge, our habits have a big impact on the quality of life that we live; specifically, these habits directly impact our happiness (or lack thereof). To make a clear distinction, there is a strong difference between clinical depression and chronic unhappiness. Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain, while unhappiness is a disposition that is often acquired through how we choose to live our lives. Similar to depression, however, unhappiness can be diagnosed and treated. Here are 12 habits that can cause unhappiness, all of which can be avoided. 1. Chronic Complaining Happy and successful people do not complain much. On the other side, it seems that chronic complainers always have something negative to say… even when those around them are happy! The bottom line: we all have different circumstances that we are given in this lifetime, but in the end these circumstances are ours – fair or unfair, wanted or unwanted. Instead, seek solutions to problems instead of complaining, which leads to nowhere. 2. Being critical – of self and others How we talk to ourselves shapes our self-image, for better or worse. Self-worth is an essential component to our happiness, and feeling good about ourselves is a right that we all have. Realize when mistakes are made, accept them, and move on…don’t engage in negative self-talk. Further, respect the inherent differences of others and recognize their right to live happily and without undue criticism. 3. Living beyond means We live in a materialistic society, one where we are constantly bombarded with advertisements for the latest car, gadget, or credit card; all promising an easier, more fulfilling existence. Don’t believe it for a second. While purchasing a new product may provide a needed emotional boost, it doesn’t last. Ever heard the term “buyer’s remorse”? It exists for a reason. Instead, seek out something to do that doesn’t involve whipping out a piece of plastic – exercise, reading, sightseeing, etc. – anything brings satisfaction without the debt. 4. Negative addictions Most things are good in moderation – food, a drink or two, entertainment… it’s when these things take center stage in our lives that it becomes a problem. Unfortunately, many good people have met their end through addictive habits, especially through dependence on alcohol and drugs. A great preventative measure and remedy to these addictions? Finding and living our passions to the greatest extent possible (see #8). 5. Regretting the past Regret is not only useless, it can be extremely harmful. Research continues to show that repetitive, negative thoughts about decisions made in the past in often a precursor to chronic stress and depression. According to Psychology Today, there are four ways to cope with regret: (1) learn from mistakes but don’t dwell, (2) if nothing can be changed about the situation to let it go, (3) make sure too much blame is not being undertaken, and(4) reframing the situation more positively. 6. Worrying about the future We only have so much say in what our future holds. This is not meant to disempower (quite the opposite); rather it is stating simple truth. What wecan do is live in the present while fully exercising our God-given abilities and talents, enabling and empowering us to live a happier existence. There’s that phrase again: living in the present. Face difficulties as they arise and let them go. Enjoy the beautiful things in life and experience them fully…be present. 7. Being driven by fear Yes, fear can be an enabler to unhappiness. To fully understand this, we have to again go back to being present. Quite simply, we can’t allow fear of the unknown (and/or the unavoidable) to cripple our quality of life. Fear is a negative thought process that is often on auto pilot. Remember: we are not our negative thoughts. We are not fear, worry, anxiety, or any other negative thought process. 8. Delaying goals and dreams It’s relatively easy and effortless to get caught up in the routine of life: working, eating, sleeping, maybe even a day or two of doing something fun or relaxing. But here’s the thing: by not directing our talents and passions toward a positive and tangible goal, we potentially discard something great before its realization. The hardest part of living out our goals and dreams istaking the first step. After building a game plan taking that first step, only then can we see the possibilities. 9. Gossiping Nothing exudes unhappiness and insecurity more than negative small talk about someone else. After all, why would a happy, confident person engage in something that is of no benefit? They wouldn’t. Gossip is something to be left to the kids at recess, not to adults attempting to make their lives (and others!) better. 10. Holding grudges Similar to other negative emotions, animosity is a needless weight on our backs. We are all witness to the negative behaviors of other people and can become (sometimes justifiably) angered as a result. But remember: this isn’t about their ignorant behavior; it’s about your happiness. Either forgive, forget, or ignore… and move on with your life. 11. Eating poorly Ingesting nutritionally-bankrupt food is all about immediate gratification. It’s certainly not about feeling good long-term, as eating poorly can result in bad health, weight gain, depression, lack of energy and decreased productivity; while having a well-balanced diet results in an entirely opposite effect – more energy, a healthy weight, mental alertness, and increased productivity. Eat right, look great, and feel great.

What Does Your Birthday Say About Your Love Life Posted: 20 May 2017 06:36 AM PDT What Does Your Birthday Say About Your Love Life? If you've always wondered if winter babies were "naughtier" than summer babies or vice versa, look no further.  Astrologer Suzie KerrWright created this interesting article to find out the real story behind what your birth month has to do with how you like to make love and your love life overall. Read on for yourself. January: January-born people are going to be a little more conservative when it comes to actually hooking up with someone.  But once they like someone, they'll be very persistent in making it happen. Those born in January have one of the kinkiest signs. You wouldn't think so, but they're right up there with November birthdays in terms of being freaky in the bedroom.  February: February-born people are adventurers. They have a lot of passion, but you have to really work for it. Their heads are focused in causes and the bigger picture, but you really have to try to get them to connect emotionally. It's not that you can't connect emotionally, but you better be prepared to work for it. March: March-born people love spending time in bed. Love for them is very intense and bonded because they give their partner everything they have and often take love making to new heights of spirituality. April: April-born people are very independent, so when they get involved with someone, they give their all. Making love with an April-born person is hot, intense, and very passionate because they're ruled by Mars, but once the love making is over, it's really over. Their passion is huge but they often get tired of people really quickly. May: May-born people make love to be comfortable and sensual and warm. They love the act of love making itself. They want to make love on satin sheets in a gorgeously decorated room or not at all. June: June-born people will want to try every position under the sun because they want to know everything about everything. They're not as intense as February-born people, but they're still intense. If you want someone to talk dirty to you, they've got you covered. If you try having naughty phone calls or message chats with them, they will love you forever. July: Making love with July-born people has to have a deep emotional component. They have to feel safe with someone and once they do, they will do anything to please their partner. They love to nurture people and make sure they're satisfied and have everything they need. August: August-born people can either be extremely selfish or extremely generous. They'll want to make sure their partner has everything, or they'll sleep with someone and leave immediately. They hate being told what to do in the bedroom, and their egos are easily bruised. September: They're passionate but they're always in control of their emotions, so when it comes to making love, it'll take a lot to really get them to let go. They won't immediately throw themselves into making love with someone, but if they have an emotional component there, there's nothing they won't do. October: They want to paint a romantic, passionate picture, and tell you how it'll be and how you'll feel. Then once they tell you, they want to go very slow and make the experience last. They'll really take their time and linger and romance someone. October-born people might lack passion, but they make up for that with spot-on courting that leads up to romantic love making. November: November-born people are the epitome of what passionate love making is. They need to possess their partners and want their partners to possess them and will make that happen. They will try every act imaginable just to say they've done it. December: December-born people are very creative in bed. They love to create stories and role-play with partners. It's often hard to connect to them in a deeper way, but they'll make love making fun every single time.