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Boy: I broke up with her.

His Best Friend: What happened?

Boy: She’s just too much for me.
His Best Friend: What makes you say that? What did she do wrong?

Boy: Well, for one.. She only cared about her appearance. Always had to look good, always took forever to get dressed! So insecure..
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she wanted to keep your eyes locked on her? She wanted you to see that you have the prettiest girl under your sleeve and not think otherwise? I see..

Boy: Oh.. Well.. She’d often call me or text me asking where I am, who I’m with, telling me not to smoke, not to drink. She’s so clingy!
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she cares about your well being? Because she cares about you a lot? And her greatest fear is losing you. I see..

Boy: But.. Uhh.. Well, she’d always cry when I say something slightly mean. She can’t handle anything. She’s a crybaby!
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she has feelings? And because she just wanted to hear you say you love her? I see..

Boy: I.. Well! You know, she’d get jealous easily. I could barely talk to other girls! She’s so annoying! I had to hide it from her so she wouldn’t bitch about it.
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she just wanted you to commit to her? She thought you were faithful, but you lied so she could find out later and hurt even more? She just wanted the guy she loves the most to love only her. I see..

Boy: Well, she..
His Best Friend: You broke up with her because she’s good for you? She just wanted the best for you? She’s broken now because you were selfish. Are you proud?

Boy: I broke her heart.. Because I couldn’t see what was happening.. What happened to me?
His Best Friend: You lost the girl that loved you like no one else could. You see? You didn’t want her when all she ever wanted was you. THAT’S what happened.

SOMETIMES we don't realize we are losing a diamond while collecting stones..
"Guys don't let her go... she is the only one"...

Think about it, when she’s too much for you.. She just wants the best for you. Because to her YOU’RE the best. If you don’t like something, talk to her about it. You mean so much to her. Don’t just give up. Don’t just leave because you want the easy way out.

When a Woman is Heartbroken And Shattered

Sometimes when a woman is heartbroken and shattered, she doesn’t want sympathy and she doesn’t want someone to come and fix her brokenness. All she just needs is someone to love her to the core… Aarti Khurana

“Hearts are breakable," Isabelle said. "And I think even when you heal, you're never what you were before".” ~ Cassandra Clare

“Sensitive people are the most genuine and honest people you will ever meet. There is nothing they won’t tell you about themselves if they trust your kindness. However, the moment you betray them, reject them or devalue them, they become the worse type of person. Unfortunately, they end up hurting themselves in the long run. They don’t want to hurt other people. It is against their very nature. They want to make amends and undo the wrong they did. Their life is a wave of highs and lows. They live with guilt and constant pain over unresolved situations and misunderstandings. They are tortured souls that are not able to live with hatred or being hated. This type of person needs the most love anyone can give them because their soul has been constantly bruised by others. However, despite the tragedy of what they have to go through in life, they remain the most compassionate people worth knowing, and the ones that often become activists for the broken hearted, forgotten and the misunderstood. They are angels with broken wings that only fly when loved.” ~ Shannon L. Alder

“Perhaps this is what the stories meant when they called somebody heartsick. Your heart and your stomach and your whole insides felt empty and hollow and aching.” ~ Gabriel Garcí­a Márquez

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

"You can stand tall without standing on someone. You can be a victor without having victims."

It's called perseverance."

--- Harriet Woods

If You Don't Feel Good Enough, You Need To Remember These 5 Things

The truth of the matter is that we experience a fair amount of both really good days and extremely bad days simultaneously. Sometimes it can seem like one is happening more than the other and can either put us in a really good mood or make us hate everything entirely.

It is important that we remind ourselves that things are not so bad when we are feeling our lowest of lows.

Despair is a very horrible feeling to experience. Here are some reminders that you should remember when you are feeling your lowest in your self-esteem.

1. Keep Moving Forward

It is important that you do not dwell on the past for too long. You can send yourself in a spiral of despair if you are constantly thinking about the "what if's" in your life. Remind yourself that it is okay to move forward with your life, forgive the past for all of it's previous mistakes, and realize that there is nothing more that you can do about it. Move on with your life and focus on the present moment.

2. There Is Nothing "Wrong" With You

Thinking that there is something "wrong" with you, is a horrible way to view yourself as well as the current situation. Everyone makes mistakes, you are only human when it comes to basic instincts. You did what you thought was right and have learned through trial and error what is right from wrong. It is an experience that we all must learn from at some point in our lives.

3. Positive Thinking Can Do Your Brain Wonders

Just by switching your overall thinking into a positive "mode", your brain will begin to see the bright side in everything that happens in your life. It's important to remind ourselves that we are not limited to just the negative thoughts in our heads. Even though the pain may still hurt, the healing process is going to require that you learn how to cope with adversity by looking at things with a much more positive view.

4. Be The Change You Desire Most

There are times where we must recognize that we are the only person who can truly make ourselves happy. No one knows you quite like yourself does. It's important to remind ourselves that even though we wish for some kind of drastic change in our lives to make ourselves happy, we have to become that change that we so desire to happen. This is easier said than done, however, the more hard work you put into yourself and your happiness, the more likely you will claim it as your own.

5. Don't Beat Yourself Up

It's important to remind ourselves that this isn't the end of the world. Sure, it may seem like everything is collapsing around you right now, but this is an opportunity for you to rebuild some of those things brought down. You can recreate yourself from the wreckage and come back even stronger because of it. This moment in your life does not define who you are today and you should never feel bound to those unfortunate experiences. Be the world you so desperately want to live in.

Hopefully this has boosted your mood and self-esteem into doing better things for yourself. For the sake of your physical and mental health.

5 Reasons Everyone Needs To Experience Physical Touch Daily

Physical touch is often misguided to believe that when people touch each other, it has to be some kind of $exual experience. This is never has been and never will be the case with humans.

Humans are always in need of physical touch, in fact, it is what drives to do almost anything at all. Once you have been neglected or deprived of physical human touch, you will realize just how lonely the world can be without it.

Yes, the other sense are also very important to your everyday life, however, physical touch proves to have the most positive results on the human psyche. Not only are you experiencing a bonding moment between you and someone else, but you are also releasing very important chemicals from your brain to the rest your body when you do so.

1. For Recovering

You need physical touch in order to recover from something traumatic that has happened to you. There is even such a thing known as therapeutic touch that has been practiced in massage, chiropractic methods, acupressure, and anything else that you can think of that involves humans touching each other for the sake of relieving stress. Even if you are still hurt and recovering from something so dramatic, allow yourself to experience other humans tending to your burden. You will feel weightless once you do so.

2. For Mental Health

As described in the above reason, physical touch can do a lot for people who are constantly thinking in a negative thought process. If you are a person who is just relentless with negative energy, experiencing physical touch from others can almost feel like as if they are installing their positive energy into your body. People can feel and sense all of the pain that you suffer just from touching your person. It's almost like you exude or are tirelessly pouring negative feelings out of yourself. It does not have to be this way.

3. For Others

Physical touch can bring you so much closer to those around you, to the ones that really want to see you become successful person in life. This is how we can connect and understand each other is by letting ourselves be vulnerable with one another and trusting them with all of what makes us miserable. We connect to each other by experiencing each others blight, we can make it easy on each other by expressing ourselves through physical touch. You may not think that you would ever need such a thing but it can do wonders for your stress.

4. For Personal Needs

If you are able to express yourself in the right way, physical touch can get you exactly what you need in that moment in time. Just by placing your hand on someone's shoulder while you are speaking to them almost forces their eyes to stay on yours. Your hand present on their person makes them know that you are wanting nothing but their attention. If you have troubles talking to people and or expressing yourself, try physical touch the next time you communicate with someone.

5. For Communication

Body language has proven to be one the most important languages in the entire world. So universal in so many ways, we often underestimate the power of body language. It is important that we convey what our intentions are through our body language as well as physical touch. For instance, giving someone a hug. Your body language demonstrates that you want them to feel safe, wanted, loved, etc. and they will feel exactly those emotions all from your body language.

If you are not a person who prefers to be touched by others, perhaps now is the time for you to give it a try. There are a variety of ways that you can go about getting your daily dose of physical touch, if you are not already in a romantic relationship, you can also find it through your friends and family. Physical touch plays a very important role in everyday life, avoiding it would be a very silly decision.

You Are In Love When YOU ARE IN LOVE when you get knots and butterflies in your stomach just by the mention of his name. YOU ARE IN LOVE when you blush while thinking about him. YOU ARE IN LOVE when you start waiting for his phone calls and text messages. YOU ARE IN LOVE when you start getting jealous of the people he spends time with. YOU ARE IN LOVE when you cannot get him out of your head and you feel him and see him everywhere you go. YOU ARE IN LOVE when every love song reminds you of him. YOU ARE IN LOVE when you want to share all your dreams and fantasies with him. YOU ARE IN LOVE when you can’t sleep without hearing his voice. YOU ARE IN LOVE when you can’t spend a single moment without him. YOU ARE IN LOVE when the only thing of dream of is to be in his arms…YOU ARE IN LOVE when you feel like spending every single moment of the rest of your life with him…Aarti Khurana

Heart Touching Story A very poor man lived with his wife. One day, his wife, who had very long hair asked him to buy her a comb for her hair to grow well and to be well-groomed. The man felt very sorry and said no. He explained that he did not even have enough money to fix the strap of his watch he had just broken. She did not insist on her request. The man went to work and passed by a watch shop, sold his damaged watch at a low price and went to buy a comb for his wife. He came home in the evening with the comb in his hand ready to give to his wife. He was surprised when he saw his wife with a very short hair cut. She had sold her hair and was holding a new watch band. Tears flowed simultaneously from their eyes, not for the futility of their actions, but for the reciprocity of their love. MORAL: To love is nothing, to be loved is something but to love and to be loved by the one you love,that is EVERYTHING. Never take love for granted.

Meaning of Marriage and Love A student asks a teacher, "What is love?" The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick." The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one... But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted. So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand. The teacher told him, "...this is love... You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person...." "What is marriage then?" the student asked. The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick." The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher. The teacher told him, "This time you bring back a corn.... You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get.... This is marriage.

One of the biggest mistakes I've made in my life One of the biggest mistakes I've made in my life is allowing myself to remain in a bad relationship far too long... “I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” ~ Marilyn Monroe “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” ~ Albert Einstein “When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” ~ Paulo Coelho, Brida

Listen to Your Heart Listen to your heart; start recognizing when something isn’t good for you and be strong enough to let it go. A person can only waste the time you give them an opportunity to waste. Stop trying to open doors for people who constantly shut you out. Make sure the interest is shown in the effort, the talk is supported by the actions, and the trust is earned through the consistency.

What “I love you” Means Love is .... Enjoying quiet moments together, Watching the night sky together, Finding happiness with each other, Caring for each other’s feelings, Sleeping in each others arms, Being lazy in bed together, Endless cuddles and snuggles. Sharing dreams and fantasies, Coming back in each other arms after fights, Forgiveness and unconditional support, Holding hands in every stage of life, Emotional and soulful bonding, Growing old together. “I love you” means that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you even when you’re in a bad mood, or too tired to do the things I want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with. “I love you” means that I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return that you do not judge me for mine. It means that I care enough to fight for what we have and that I love you enough not to let go. It means thinking of you, dreaming of you, wanting and needing you constantly, and hoping you feel the same way for me. ~ Jonathan Safran Foer

6 Differences Between A Man Who Loves You And A Man Who Is Poisoning Your Life Love is hard to find, and it’s even harder to know whether or not it’s real when your feelings cloud your judgement. However, deep down we all have that voice in the back of our head that won’t shut up. We convince ourselves it’s fear, and maybe sometimes it is, but if you really do wonder whether or not the man you’re with is there for the right reasons, then take a look at these six differences between a man who loves you and one who is poisoning your relationship and wasting your time. 1. Respectful vs. Tolerant A man who loves you will respect you and admire you for your strong opinions. On the opposite end of the spectrum are men who will tell you that you’re wrong or agree to let you think what you want without believing that your opinion is as equally valid and important as theirs, no matter how different the two may be. 2. Encouraging vs. Controlling Men who love a woman want her to be the best version of herself. He’ll encourage her to pursue new opportunities and experiences. He may introduce her to plenty of new things, but he’ll never force her into something she’s uncomfortable with or make her feel bad about herself for not doing something he wanted her to. 3. Honest vs. Cruel If you ask him how you look in a pair of jeans and he says you should change, that doesn’t mean he’s evil or thinks you’re gross. Would you honestly want him walking around in a shirt that didn’t fit properly? Men who love women will tell them what they need to hear. The truth may sting a little in certain situations, but his words never should. A man who tells you to lose weight insults the things you like, your style or anything else about you doesn’t do so out of love; he does it because he doesn’t respect you and knows he can get away with talking to you that way. 4. Affectionate vs. Clingy Now we’re moving into a different territory where your man may text, call and want to be with you 24/7. Some women might think that sounds great, but constantly checking up on you and needing the reassurance of their place in your life is a sign he’s in this more for himself than for you. A man who loves you will certainly let it show both emotionally and physically, but a man who is clingy just has emotional issues and wants to talk to you so he feels validated, not so you feel good. 5. Protective vs. Possessive This continuous the misleading actions that come off one way but are actually something else entirely. It’s natural to protect something you care about, so if he keeps you in close sight and his arm around your shoulders while you two are out at the club, great. If on the other hand, he refuses to let you go anywhere alone or starts fights with men who try to talk to you, he’s possessive and, like a dog uses aggression to defend what’s “his”. 6. Serious vs. Interested A guy who is interested in you will talk to you when the times are convenient for him. If the relationship is brand new, this is to be expected. After all, no one drops what they’re doing to text incessantly with a girl they met two weeks ago. But if you two have been official for a while and he still only seems to talk when it’s good for him, then chances are he’s not in love, even if he does use the “L” word. Men who are in love will make serious commitments and efforts. When they make plans, they adhere to them. When they say they’ll do something, they follow through. Mr. Right is not anything like Mr. Right Now, and you’ll know that when you take a step back and truly analyze your relationship, your interactions and your overall level of happiness.

5 Signs He’s Serious With You In dating world, Men can play cool at first and its hard to know if his serious with you or not, below are signs that he’s really into you a lot, enjoy! 1. He calls you Like Every time. If a guy calls you anytime or like when you expect his call that’s a sign his into you, he will call you in the morning, mid-day and during nights to wish you good night, shows how much he cares for you. 2. He wants to see Like Every time. As for me when am interested on someone, I will do anything just to see them, Even when am so held up, I will get time for her, so if any guy wants to see you as often as he wants he’s really into you. 3. He Gets Jealous When your with other guys. Jealousy is one thing that shows someone cares about you, so long as his not possessive. So when he gets jealous and starts asking about who those guys are or what you are to them is a good signs He wants to be with you and his serious about you. 4. He talks a lot about you to his friends. You know how hard men can be to talk about their woman, so If all he talks about when his with friends is about you then you should be lucky cause his serious about you. 5. He spends His Free Time With you Mostly. Most men will go out on weekends to have fun, it takes that serious man who wants to be with you to spend his quality free time, even when he has no time, he will find one for you .

When someone you love Dies “When someone you love dies you never quite get over it you just slowly learn how to go on without them but always keeping them tucked safely in your heart.” ...

16 Point Plan Of How To Succeed in Your Professional Life 1. Don’t talk negatively about people behind their backs. 2. If you gossip, people won’t confide in you. Mind your own business. 3. Try to work for someone who’ll challenge your powers. 4. You’ll learn more in a year than 4 years of college. 5. Successful bosses have good communication skills. They learn from people, including their employees. 6. Work in such a way that makes your boss look good. It’s not flattery. 7. On downsizing, the first to go are those with few friends. Bosses prefer competent people whom they respect. 8. Dress for the job you want, not the one you have. Let your dress reflect professionalism. 9. Workout to get in good physical shape. Unless exceptionally skilled, the unhealthy are at a comparative disadvantage. 10. Personal integrity is crucial. tell nothing but the truth. Bosses can forgive mistakes but if you lie, you’re gone. 11. Be on time. Try to arrive few minutes early. It saves you from stress. You’ll be much relaxed & work better. 12. Strive your best to keep a deadline. If you cannot meet it, then apologize & ask for an extension. 13. Don’t take things personally. If some people are unhappy with you, it’s their problem. But always strive to give your best. 14. If you must correct someone, don’t get personal about it. Do it never in front of others. 15. Spend some time alone every day. Think What’s the mission of my life? What do I want to be? and how to go about it. 16. As you move along Plan A of your career, maintain a Plan B as well an alternative course to rely. Always remember that the secret of success is passion. Always think big. Spread love & joy. You’ll have blissful years ahead.

6 Signs You're Wasting Your Life But Can't Admit It Life is a treasure, a gift that has limitless potential. The sheer magnitude of this simple, yet massive, concept isn't always taken advantage of. Some people can't imagine how to carry the whole cake, so they settle for a slice, or worse nothing. You only get one ride in this vessel, and your ride isn't guaranteed any length of time. Faced with these facts, many people create boundaries, limitations, basically excuses.One thing leads to nothing and before you know it tomorrow is today and you have wasted so much. Don't create regrets today, do what you can even if it isn't perfect. A nurse revealed the most common regrets people had at the end of their lives, and the general theme to all of them is to keep trying, loving, exploring and being true to yourself. Below we've highlighted the surest ways to waste your life. You Keep Yourself Overwhelmed From clubbing, massive theater screens, surround sound, neighbors that live ten feet away to advertisements everywhere possible, modern society is defined by ever present stimulus. The constant noise drowns out our voice but also buries our fears and doubts. The new age version of a base line is the most mentally and spiritually numb state that people have lived. While the bad is generally muted and we can't feel the effects of life's pains as clearly, we also trade our propensity for the joys and positivity. People either fear the lows so badly or even worse believe that they don't deserve the highs. The choice to simply exist and not life should never warrant hesitation. You Waste Time Not Making Or Avoid Decisions When faced with infinite choices, we get caught up in trying to make the 'perfect decision'. The choice that will make everything perfect and grant our every desire, scaring off any fear. We seem to forget that we are in control of our lives and have the right to change our minds or direction at any time, for any reason. Indecision leads to stagnation. If you don't stay moving and pro-actively make moves you feel is right, life will do it for you. You will be in a constant state of reacting, trying to keep your head above water. This doesn't mean you have to move at breakneck-speeds all the time, but give your needs voice and honor your heart's desires. You Surround Yourself With Pointless Distractions More than half of the activities and products in this country are specifically aimed at killing time, to get through one more day. Distractions are a sneaky and absurdly prevalent vice. Looking at your phone for the time can turn into an hour of reading celebrity facts in the blink of an eye. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, so our time is precious and needs to be valued and well partitioned. There is a difference between wasting time and taking a break. Waste less time, take more breaks, and most of all pay attention to what ever you are doing. Be present. You Trade Self Discipline For Instant Gratification Self discipline is the greatest gift you can create for yourself. Developing your will power, training your focus, developing awareness are just a few of the benefits of enforcing discipline on yourself. The only thing you truly control in life, is yourself. You can't truly force others to do something if they absolutely don't want to. You can't change the seasons or cheat death. You can control what you choose to do in life and the attitude you nurture. The pleasures of instant gratification do not build character or help you achieve any productive goal. You may feel unfocused and direction-less, so you choose to waste time, waiting for your 'higher purpose' to reveal itself. Life never works like that, but if it did and your purpose was revealed, would you have the internal resources to complete it? You don't have to know where you're going but you will benefit from traveling anyway. You Never Truly Acknowledge Your Fears Fear is a powerful force that prevails in ignorance. You can't ignore a concern and expect it to go away. Ignoring your dread gives that formation the free reign to grow and maximize its effects on your life and psyche. People don't acknowledge fear for many different reasons. They are afraid of the extent of their terror, that they won't be able to conquer it. They may not want to dent their pride by admitting they could be afraid of anything. Not confronting fear is like choosing to not accept the rising tide and being surprised when you can't breathe. Look beyond your ego, any of your formations only have the influence that it is given. You Stay Continually Busy There is a difference between staying busy and being productive. Most people stay busy, working harder instead of of smarter. Staying constantly occupied is like the sum of all the previous points. You internally keep yourself overwhelmed, engaging in tasks that truly only pass the time. Not everything you do is your greatest task or among the most defining moments of your life. There are menial things we do that help sustain our quality of life. You know when you are not working on what you should. Stay mindful of what's on your list and try to keep it to the essential tasks.

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How many times during your growing years did your parents tell you to walk straight or sit up straight? You may have casually dismissed it, or maybe you didn’t really pay attention. As an adult, though, you realise the wisdom of the advice.

Simple practices like these don’t just help you physically but also psychologically. Psychologists say that there are many little ways that can instantly help boost self-confidence. Here are some easy tips on how you can do just that.

GROOMING

The first thing that works for a confident person is his or her personal hygiene. Right from your hair, your face, your body, your fingers, and your skin — keep them clean and well maintained. If you have a body odour problem, take remedial measures (use deodorants and bactericidal soaps.

Check your teeth and get them fixed if there is a problem. Brush everyday twice, if you can, even after meals. You can even pop in a mint after your meals.  

Take care of your skin by eating the right food and drinking lots of water. If it needs more care, take help from professionals.

Knowing you look your best is an easy and effective way to help you act your best.

DRESS FOR SUCCESS

Dressing well and appropriately can do wonders for one’s self esteem. Many of us wear clothes that look nice on the clothes rack but do not necessarily suit our body type. Wear clothes that fit you well. If you are on the healthier side, wear clothes that aren’t too tight yet not loose or baggy, which just adds to the bulk and does not make you look any better.

Dressing well does not mean you need to spend your entire salary investing in designer brands. Choose your clothes wisely — it’s quality not quantity that counts. Pick up a few outfits that make a statement instead of loads of outfits that do nothing for your confidence.

The other thing to do is watch the popular verdict. If most people say pink is your colour and you feel comfortable wearing pink, do it.

GOOD POSTURE

Good posture has an immediate and lasting impact on your confidence. Do you recollect the time you were at the door, about to face an interview? What did you do instinctively? Didn’t you take a deep breath? By doing that two things happen — your stomach goes in and your head is held high.

Always hold your head high, throw your shoulders back, keep your back straight and walk with confident steps. Practice in the mirror a few times to make sure your doing it right, without looking too stiff.

 WALK SMART

Do you take small, shuffling steps? Do you fling your arms around when you walk? Stop! You may be doing something sub-consciously that does not really compliment your style.

Be aware of how you walk. Be quick and energetic with a spring in your step. Think of a nice outdoor activity that you like doing, feeling the breeze on your face and letting your heart guide your walk.

If you are still not comfortable, try this age-old trick. Place a big book on your head and try to walk without dropping it. This is a great way to improve posture and gait.

SMILE OFTEN

To complete the look, make sure to smile. Smile as often as you can and, if you can manage, let a tiny smile hang around the corners of your mouth.

In all your interactions, look people in the eye, greet them and smile. You’ll see the other person transform in front of you.

BE EMPATHIC

Your confidence levels rise drastically when you successfully connect with people around you. For that you need to be empathic towards your family, friends and colleagues to begin with. Once you can deal and help other people with their emotions and problems, you immediately increase your influence with your circle of friends, acquaintances and colleagues.

LEARN TO CALM YOURSELF

This is probably the most important factor when it comes to confidence — being able to face every situation calmly. But this does not come naturally to everyone, which is why you need to train yourself.

Find activities that calm you — like talking a walk, listening to music, dancing, talking to your friends, reading, writing, gardening, cooking — any activity that makes you feel happy. Do it once or twice a week or month, depending on the time you have. Meditation techniques help too.

EMPOWER YOURSELF

Knowledge almost always boosts self-confidence. Empower yourself with knowledge — of your surroundings, of your job, of people, of the world around you. A good grasp of current events helps you strike up meaningful conversation and ensures that you’re not left out.

One of the simplest things to do is read the newspaper, talk to people and be aware and observant.

KEEP A SOUL KNICK-KNACK

A soul knick-knack can help you tide over those times when your confidence is tested. It could be your guru’s photo, a gift from a loved one, your lucky charm, or even a photograph of a loved one. This soul knick-knack needs to be something that can bring a smile to your face, specially during testing times.

FIND SOLUTIONS TO PROBLEMS

Do not procrastinate or run away from your problems. The sign of a confident person is that he or she takes the problem head on and finds a solution. If you don’t think you can handle it on your own, there is no shame in seeking help.

I was raised to show respect.

“I was raised to show respect. I was taught to knock before I open a door. Say hello when I enter a room. Say please and thank you, and to have respect for my elders. I’d let another person have my seat if they need it. Say ‘yes sir’ and ‘no sir’, and help others when they need me to, not stand on the sidelines and watch. Hold the door for the person behind me, say ‘excuse me’ when it’s needed and to love people for who they are and not for what I can get from them and most importantly, I was also raised to treat people exactly how I would like to be treated by others. It’s called respect.

Respect your efforts, respect yourself. Self-respect leads to self-discipline. When you have both firmly under your belt, that's real power.

I have no right, by anything I do or say, to demean a human being in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him; it is what he thinks of himself. To undermine a man's self-respect is a sin.